💛 SELLevel 1Lesson 17
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Thinking Before Acting

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Learning Objectives

  • 1Stop for a moment
  • 2Notice how I feel
  • 3Make a safer or kinder choice before I act
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Mini Lesson

Sometimes our bodies want to move fast before our brains have finished thinking. When we slow down for a moment, we can make a better choice.

Why stop first?

  • Fast actions can lead to hurt feelings, broken rules, or unsafe choices.
  • A short pause gives your brain time to catch up.
  • Stopping first is a smart way to show self-control.

The 4 steps

  • Think — stop your body and take a breath.
  • Feel — notice your feeling, like angry, excited, worried, or upset.
  • Decide — choose the safest and kindest action.
  • Act — do the good choice you picked.

What helps?

  • You can whisper, "Stop and think."
  • You can count to three or take one slow breath.
  • You can ask, "Is this safe? Is this kind?"
A child pausing before actingA child holds up a stop hand while a thought bubble says stop and think.Stop & think

Diagram: A small pause gives your brain time to think before your body acts.

A small pause gives your brain time to think before your body acts.
The think feel decide act pathA four-step path shows the order think, feel, decide, and act.Good choices take steps.ThinkFeelDecideActSafe first. Kind first.

Diagram: Good choices often follow the same order: think, feel, decide, then act.

Good choices often follow the same order: think, feel, decide, then act.
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Ask yourself: "Did I stop, think, and choose a safe action first?

Vocabulary
Self-control
The skill of stopping before you acte.g. I use self-control to wait my turn.
Pause
To stop for a momente.g. I pause and take a breath.
Choice
What you decide to doe.g. I made a kind choice.
Safe
Not likely to cause harme.g. I picked a safe action.
Decide
To pick what to doe.g. I decide to walk slowly indoors.
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